I am planning on calling a girl that things ended rather poorly with later on. I was going to text her to ask when a good time would be to call. Do you have any advice for how I should approach the text? I am trying to make it clear that I just want to apologize and that I will be understanding.
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Forewarned if forearmed. If she doesn't want to talk to you and you text her saying you're going to she will make absolutely sure she does not pick up your call.
Reading your response to madhatter, forcing yourself on her when she doesn't want it is not a good thing. When I'm upset I need alone time - I don't want to talk to anyone or do anything about it until I've figured it out in my own mind. That's what we introverts do. The absolute worst thing anyone can do to me when I'm like this is force attention on me and not leave me alone. Not only am I upset about my initial problem but you become a secondary problem that makes the original problem worse.
If she doesn't want your help and stated this to you, it is not "cold and disrespectful" for her to continue to push you away. It is actually highly disrespectful for you to not respect her desire to be alone during this time. She told you what she needs right now and you aren't giving it to her.
People deal with personal issues in different ways. Hers is not the same as yours and you need to respect that.
If you want to apolgise send her a simple text that says something like "I'm sorry about before. I'm here for you if you would ever like to talk."
That way if she does she will contact you but you're not forcing it upon her.0