I was dating this guy back in March and we dated for about 3 months. That isn't a long time, but he told me within weeks of dating that I was the one he was going to marry, and that when I finished this year of school, he wanted to buy a house and move me to Alabama with him. We unexpectedly broke up in May when he cheated on me, it was a shock to all of my friends, and his friends, as well. He began dating this girl that he cheated on me with in September, and I can't move on. I cry when I think about things we did together, the fact that she is laying in his bed, where I did. I drive by the place where he works ( granted it's on the road I live on), and look to see if he is at work. I have a friend who is still friends on Facebook with him, and I look at his page often, and cry seeing her posts on his wall. I was in love with him, and thought I was going to marry him. I compare guys I am talking to, to him, and it seems as though no one will be good enough.
why am I struggling to move on?
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You are struggling to move on because this man promised you what you wanted to hear. Some people do that for some reason that I don't know, but it sounds like you were caught up in a game that he made up and changed the rules to as it went along. I know its painful, but you have to realize he never did love you and his words were meaningless. He had you convinced that he was your soulmate, but it was all just smoke and mirrors.
As far as the new girlfriend, don't let that keep you up at night. He's playing a game with her too, maybe in a different fashion than he did with you, but a game none the less.
You need to love yourself and strive to be the best you can be, whether it be work, school, or anything you decide to do in life.
Losing something you thought was real and was going to last is a very painful experience to go through.
Keep your goals in mind and work every day to achieve them, even if you can only do a little each day and you will get past this and be happy once again.0