I am getting mixed signals from him, and I would rather not play guessing games, so I'm ready to write him off… but would like to hear your opinions please!
I have been on 2 dates with him, each one was one week apart from the other. Both of the dates were really fun, and after each date, he expressed a great deal of interest (asked to see me again, talked about what we could do next time, initiated a lot of contact). We would not necessarily talk everyday, but it was a good amount since we had only just started seeing each other. On the 2nd date, he planned everything ahead, drove me home, and was the perfect gentlement.
A few days after the 2nd date, after a lot of chatting, all of it stopped, for almost a week. I never gave him the impression I wasn't interested in him. but I didn't think much of it - it is getting close to the holidays and I was also busy planning and attending to family/friends. I merely sent him a short, very generic holiday greeting today, and he engages me in full conversation, and asked me a lot of questions to prolong the convo. Eventually, he says, "if you don't have plans later today, let me know! we should go grab a drink :)"
However, there are two reasons I am not sure that I would like to take him up on this. First, I feel like we have gone from "seeing each other" to being just friends planning a meet up. He had been much more effortful for the 2nd date. Secondly, if I never sent him the greeting, I don't believe he would have suggested this at all.
Meeting up with him would probably be fun, but I don't want to, for the reasons above. What do you think?!
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I would be careful, could also be that he didn't want to exaggerate and wanted to leave you alone for a few days.
You'll know better than I, but some girls may like to get lots of attention, other may want things to go step by step. Hard to know as a guy, and do good for your loved one.
Perhaps go with him to have the glass and see if he drives you home! You may feel happy that you did it :-)
Hope it works out, thumbs up.
I've sent you a friends request, feel free to accept if you like (just for a chat, we're about 5000 miles apart - I'm from Belgium).1