OK, I'm just wondering how this should be dealt with.
My son aged 7 was out playing on our house front yard, while he was playing comes this 9 year old girl who goes to the same school as him and this incident isn't the first time it is happening. It has happened a few times before including once on school premise, the principal of the school told me they can't take any action as no one saw it happening and it is difficult for them to take any action unless they have evidence.
This 9 year old who is taller and a bigger than him comes up to him, starts kissing him on his mouth, it isn't one of those kisses you would see on a Disney channel but something closer to what you would see in an R-rated film, she also had her arms around him and at times was holding onto his cheeks.
The mother of that 9 year old saw what had happened but didn't do anything until I went to where they were and shouted at the 9 year old to knock it off. I told my son's mother to bring him into the house and wash his mouth several times.
I then confronted the mother of that girl who acted as if nothing was amiss and said if my son didn't like it he could have said to stop. I told her I don't want to see her daughter within an arms length of him again and she simply said whatever.
What's the proper way to handle this?
I felt like planting my fist in her face.
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What does your boy think?
Like... it's possible the boy doesn't mind, in which case you don't really neeeeeedddd to do anything. Sometimes kids *do* that kinda thing. But, either way the girl needs a serious lecture about consent, & if her mother isn't prepared to give it, yeah... I worry for her future partners. If the kid DOES mind though... Idk, I'd talk to the girl about it again, tell her *not* to do that. Follow up if she ever does it again, etc. Like, you have to be careful about this kinda thing cos... Like, I don't want to freak you out or nothing but... Sometimes kids do molest other kids, you know? It's a lot more common than you think. So, yeah... I'd take... pretty extreme measures, tbh. Including, if she keeps doing the kissing thing, taking him to another school, probably.
You handled it well though. Be firm. If it happens again, talk to the school again and demand they do something. And talk to the parent again and demand she do something. Keep doing that... But yeah, talk with your kid about it too. Ask him how he feels about the whole thing. Ask him what he wants you to do. (it isn't always the best thing to take a kid at their word on what they say they want though - I know I asked not to be moved schools when I was getting physically abused & other heinous stuff... My mother was very good & listened to me, but... In the end I wish she didn't. Be mindful for stockholm syndrome etc) & just make sure it's something you and him can talk about, that he doesn't feel ashamed or afraid to talk about, & he can have those conversations with you when he gets older. That's important, I think...
anyway yeah, sorry this is happening, good luck getting it sorted <330