My boyfriend and I have been dating for about three months, He's wonderful, the perfect guy. Sweet, considerate, he wants to give me the world. I just... I don't feel the way I'm supposed to.
By now I should be falling for him and all I feel is suffocation. Everything I've ever been told about love says to marry a guy just like the guy I'm dating but I can't let myself go. I can't let myself fall in love. I could fall for him I think, but somehow I just can't let myself do it.
So now I'm at a crossroads. Do I break his heart and risk making the biggest mistake of my life? Or do I keep dating him and see if things change? Maybe I just need a little time.
I am so confused. Help please.
- Break up?Vote A
- Keep dating him.Vote B
Most Helpful Guy
Keep dating and here is why. Even back before marriage, in Israel there used to be arranged marriages. The marriages had a a years time of being together without sex or anything sexual to find out if the couple was compatible and would go well together, if they did not there would be a divorce and they would try again with someone else. Now in modern relation it makes sense to DATE someone for a year to find out if you two are compatible and have enough there to make for a good relationship.
People these days, especially young people (myself included) have been taught and given this notion that love is supposed to be this thing that either magically clicks with someone at first sight or will never be there, that's actually wrong. Love means patience, compassion, and WORKING together to be with someone, yes WORK is part of what makes a great relationship time and effort are important ESPECIALLY during the WORST moments. It's not love if you abandon someone when the going gets tough or they abandon you just because they are experience a hard time or aren't happy when they were in the beginning.
IF you STILL don't find yourself seeing a future with the one you're with AFTER a year of dating, the odds are that you probably won't ever. But give it time and patience to get to know them and how you BOTH handle ups and downs together.
I wish you both all the best and even if things don't work out together I wish you both happiness in the years to come, good luck, best wishes, and God Bless.0