I'm a woman in my 30's and men use to approach me all of the time. I get that I was younger and many of them got married. There are still plenty of single men in their 30's left. If I see them approach anyone usually it's the early 20 somethings and just for sex. I imagine there are good 30 something men out there looking for relationships but I can't find them. What happened to people wanting to find a partner and get married?
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There's still plenty of them out there but they are probably mostly single. Plus a lot of men are gonna be on the lookout for women who have a "biological clock" that is ticking. Trust me, I have talked to women in their 30's and before I even meet them they're already talking to me about how they want to find someone to move in with(and this is the 2nd phone call!) and it is very scary.
When I was in my early 20's I tried my hardest to find a good girl to date and girls would date me but they'd either be uninterested, or someone who was interested but I'd have to be crazy to date due to their lifestyles and what they'd do and who they would associate with. Now that I turned 29, I completely lost interest. The women I meet want something so specific and not only do they want something so specific, they want it NOW! Last girlfriend I had called it a relationship on the very first date and immediately wanted online dating profiles taken down and all that right away and would get mad if I suggested merely hiding them first when I wanted to take things slowly.
Other girls I see have such specific criteria that it's actually them who is picky. Girls I see profiles of will not date guys without a high end college degree, a high end career, a house, and so on. But if you were to ask these picky women what they had to contribute, it's all a bunch of tap dancing. If I as a man don't want to date a woman who lives with her parents, I would be considered a horrible picky guy who doesn't give girls a chance. But the other way around is commonly accepted nowadays. Plus many guys are seeing how marriages are nowadays and protecting themselves. Women are walking away with guys' assets constantly.
So what happened to guys wanting a partner and to get married? Well go make a dating profile and watch how many messages you get. You'll get hook up requests of course, but plenty of well written messages and you'll probably turn them down because of your preferences. They won't be "good enough." So I don't see it as men being picky.0