A friend of mine texted me 3 days ago asking if I was going to be showing up at 6:30pm that night, and I replied saying that I think it's better if I don't hang around him for a while. He gets upset I think and replies with, "Ok whatever. I don't know what I've done." I was a little shocked and dismayed and so I replied back if that he wants to talk I'm always available. He didn't say anything in return.
Later that night I showed up only to help a mutual friend of ours, Alan, with some stuff and my male friend didn't say anything but he had left that night before I did and as he was leaving he passed by and said "Bye you guys." to both me and Alan. The next day I text him asking if he had time that day to talk about it, and he replied with "I have no free time tonight. Sorry."
So I asked him if he had any other day available and he replies with "I have no time this week. Sorry" I had then asked him to let me know when he did and he said "Okay." Ever since then he was supposed to show up in the evenings but he has been flaky and he has never really skipped out on anything unless it was an emergency.
I was on facebook last night and he hopped on it for a few minutes but he didn't IM me or even leave a comment. I'm saddened and I don't know what to do, but now he's mad and he doesn't even know why I had canceled on him for a while...but I'm assuming he thinks I did it cause he thinks I think he did something to p*ss me off.
what's with all the nonsense? I don't get why you canceled on him like that in the first place :( and it wasn't just for the night, you said for a while. he's probably mad because he doesn't know what the hell happened. to be honest, I'd ignore you too. I don't chase people for answers. that feels like a really big cold shoulder for no apparent reason, so I would just deem you an asshole and say that I'm too busy for you, just like you're too busy for me.
i definitely understand this guy.
you can do one of two things here (or both): end the texting b.s. stop asking if he's available because you know he is and he's just ignoring you: call the man up. you will probably get no reply, but you can leave v-mail saying that you didn't mean to come off that way and you'd like to explain yourself if he's willing to speak to you.
give it three days, if nothing , you can do this:
email or private message him on facebook; explain yourself clearly. don't say 'oh, call me!' 'cause he'll blow you off immediately. use this message as your way of talking. tell him everything you need to say, apologize profusely, and make sure he knows that it was all YOU and not HIM. don't start ranting about how you're upset that he won't talk to you because he's right for ignoring you, just tell him that you're really sorry and you'd really like to talk to him if he'll give you the chance.
Sorry if this comes out the wrong way, but this is exactly why I don't get girls at times. You like him yet you tell him it might be better to not see each other for a few days. I know that would upset me if I liked you. I think you might be best off explaining him why you said that and that you actually do have feelings for him. Unless he's just a friend, in that case he'll probably calm down soon enough.
2 months of ignoreing you? you must have made him think he sleeped with your sister by the sounds of it. have you tried to tell him you want to hang out and talk?
PS: some details are missing and I'm wondering if it was something like he told you he was in love with you and you crushed his heart by saying "I think it's better if I don't hang around him for a while"
if that is the case you probly realy hurt him and a guy would need time to recover from something like that.
Let me break it down for a sista. YOU say "I don't want to hang out for a while", and the CONSEQUENCE is that he doesn't hang out with you for a while. Do you see how this works? It's called communication. You COMMUNICATE with other members of your species to let them know of your intent. This is not complicated at all okay? In fact most birds, and almost every mammal on the planet has mastered this by now.
As for what you could do... this is going to sound shocking, but you SAY what you MEAN. No mind games, no double speak bullsh*t. If you don't want him to not see you for a couple of days, don't ask that he not see you for a couple of days.
Sounds like he wants to be more than just friends and when you told him its better if he doesn't hang around you for a while he took that as you don't want to be anything more than friends. Which can be painful for a person, especially if they had a crush on ya. Give him time and hell come back around being your friend. If you are interested in more than being his friend, then I would send him a clear and loud message stating that!
I think what would have been best is if you just asked why he has been acting different around you and not being nice, but still I think he is very IMMATURE for not just talking to you about it.. He's trying to put some kind of silly guilt trip on you and is enjoying the attention of you asking to talk over and over. Guys love to do this to girls because they know we're easily guilted lol. If he wasn't being nice to you and he still isn't being nice to you than forget him! You did all you can do. If he cares, he should put in the effort to talk and be concerned about why you wouldn't want to hang out anymore not just say "ok, whatever". Follow your intuition!=]
Why don't you write to him either thru email or letter. Trying to talk to him is not getting you anywhere. Just send him an email or letter explaining why you need to distance yourself away from him. I'm sure he will read the letter or email because I'm sure he is curious too why you don't want to hang out with him anymore. Good luck!
well I don't know why you are surprised y he is mad at you... he wanted to hang out and you said you shouldnt be around him for a while? I wouldn't be happy if someone did that to me. May be he is a little over reacting I don't know your background, but I think you should of explained why you don't want to be around him, and that was rude the way you said it.. what do you do, now you text him with an apology! and say you are sorry if you hurt his feelings, explain why you can't be around him