I don't know if your atcually in your 30s or not but if you are and the guy is too that is really bad and you should run away now. He sound's like he acts like a high school boy. immature and indecisive and not knowing how to play the dating game property. You don't tell a girl you found someone else and then run back when it didn't work out. That shows you were the second choice and it seems to me that he's waiting for someone better to come along, he's not fully commiting himself to you because he thinks he can do better. I think if you waste your time chasing this guy its only gonna come back to bite you in the end.if you still insist on seeing this guy I think your gonma have to take a difference approach if you want him to commit to your eventually. Don't put all your eggs in one basket and by that I mean keep your guard up and don't let him see all the sides to you. He needs to know in order for you to open yourself to him there needs to be trust and trust is earned not granted. Don't let him think you need him let him think he needs you. Play a little hard and don't ever be complicated exspially if yu guys arnt complicated but don't take any the bull shit he tries to feed you. Your a women and you don't have time to play little games.