a) You are not that attracted to him (ex: suspicious that online date's pictures are overselling his physique) or couldn't imagine yourself having sex with him at some point due to a physical flaw (ex: pot belly).
b) You see a dealbreaker already already (ex: it'd be a LDR, he majors in a degree you look down on, he's a messy guy whereas you're a neat freak, etc.)
c) You have a feeling that he only seeks sex.
Please tell me if you'd agree to a date under each of these circumstances. Also, tell me what determines whether you accept a date or decline it. If you have online dating experience too, please share!
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a: I only meet girls online if they show me their full body(clothed obviously) and not at those stupid angles they take photos from to hide their belly(top down selfies). I have falled for outdated photos before and the girls gets really hurt more than I do when she sees my disinterest.
b: It depends, I am avoiding druggies like the plague and this seems to narrow down my choices a lot ironically. I never knew so many people were into drugs but it could just be where I am mostly. Drugs are a dealbreaker to me and I am honestly skipping over them.
c: As a guy, sex is OK with me. I have actually given up pretty much on long term relationships
I got 2 recent online stories. Both were in the same day.
This one closely relates to A. Girl mislead me with her photos. She gave me a pretty face shot and when I met her... her face was all fat and everything. She also gave me a body shot in her underwear but it was dark. When she showed up. She was just fat(but told me she was curvy... fat rolls don't mean curvy!). We met at a planet fitness. I walked on the treadmill for like 20mins and she already saw my disinterest so she said I could go.
Later that night...
Met a girl for a drink. First thing she's mentioning is that she wants to move and how there's nothing do to here but drink and all that. I buy her a drink. We talk. We leave and I see if she wants to come over but she couldn't. I was the one only interested in sex in this case. She's gonna move anyway so she clearly can't have something long term with me.0