There's a guy and we've only been out two-three times (both very busy and we do not live close to each other). I like him, but I don't feel things are going as smooth as they should go (too much playing the texting game, no butterflies, ...). I don't know how I feel about him. He's a good guy, no asshole (as far as I know) so I do want to give him a chance. I feel that going on more dates with him will get his hopes up, which I don't want to do since I don't know how I feel about him, though I do think that's the whole point of going on dates, getting to know one another and figuring out if it'll work. I know things won't work out between us, we're too much alike on some levels which won't end good (too much drama). Should I even bother figuring out my feelings or trying to stay just friends when I know things won't work out? I'm kinda confused so I could use advice.
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Ok, lets just breeze breeze past all of the bull and get down to the real issue. You are afraid, plain and simple. You are afraid that he will reject you if you show your interest more than he does. You obviously like him otherwise you wouldn't have bothered asking the question in the first place. You have two choices here.
1) Do nothing and you'll always regret it and wonder what couldve been.
2) Go for it, and even if it doesn't work out at least you will always know that you gave it your best shot and have no regrets.
Trust me when I say, fear and anxiety led me to choose option 1, and I couldn't make my move and I am miserable ever since lying awake at night wondering what if all of the time.
So what's it gonna be? Are you going to run and constantly question "what if I ..." or are you gonna just chill out text him say hey lets meet up for a few beers or something.2
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