I've been dating this guy for about one month. We don't live very close to each other so weekends is the only time we can hang out. We both don't work weekends though so it's really perfect.
Since we've been "dating" it's really been more like hanging out. His place or mine. Watching TV and yada yada. Last weekend I wanted to go out and get some dinner and drinks maybe. He said that Sat and Sun he had to watch football so I said OK. and I canceled my Friday night plans so I could see him. I ask him to go out for dinner and complained "why can't we just hang out at your place like we said"... so okay.. we hang out..
This weekend is coming up. I ask him when I'll see him and he tells me all his plans for the weekend. Friday night he may go to happy hour, sat night he promised his students that he would watch their game, and Sunday he has football.
He says that he can see me after he's done with happy hour on Friday night or we can get lunch on Saturday..
Ummmmmm SERIOUSLY? meet up with him after happy hour ? lunch on sat? I compromised last weekend and yes I would have liked a date night. Am I wrong to be upset?
Please tell me exactly what you would say to someone if you were in this situation.
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It doesn't sound like he's serious about you. If he were very interested in you he'd be treating you like a princess by trying to wine and dine you, impress you, and generally make you a priority. Instead, you're getting passed over for football and happy hour.
The fact that he is telling you that these other things are more important suggests to me that he's already decided it's a casual relationship that he doesn't value. You can try to talk about it but I seriously doubt it will change how he's treating you. You could say, "I wanted to try this restaurant on Friday" and if he says no, call him on it. Say, "So, I'm just going to be your TV partner or what? Am I not worthy of just one of your Friday nights?" See how he responds. If he insists it's more, make him prove it. You get what you settle for.
Is this the guy you're not using any protection with? Good luck with that.