I'm not great with this stuff so need some advice.
Girl #1- Tina- former co-worker (My last job). We chat on Facebook and text all the time but we are always in and out of relationships (her last one ended in a sad death a year ago), so we've never dated. I want to say to her "I'd like to date you if you're ready to date again, or are interested etc...", but only in person. To that end, the other day we Facebooked about the latest Disney film. She said she hadn't seen it and I said "Well there's our next outing." She 'liked' that, and I sent her a message that told her if she was feeling better next week (She's been sick), that I was free a few days in a row and she should let me know. No reply, but we messaged back and forth since on other stuff. I really don't want to come off pushy, so how would you broach that subject again?
Girl #2- Amy- Got hired in December. I friend-ed her on FB. She told me she was interviewing for another job last weekend that had better hours. Friday, I was getting off work a mere 15 minutes ahead of her. I commented- "I'm going for a much needed beer across the street. Or a margarita." "They make great margaritas!" she replied. "So do you want to join me then?", I said. She hesitated and said "Let me think about it!" (Keep in mind it actually was an icy/snowy night). A few minutes before leaving I light heartedly said, "So you're not getting that drink with me are you?", and she said "No, kinda late and snowy. But will you take a rain check on it?", which gave me hope, and I said I'd buy the first round. "Now you're definitely on" she told me.
She didn't show for her 3 shifts this week, so I texted her and she confirmed they offered her a less than part time gig following holidays, so she accepted the job she interviewed for. I told her I was sad I wouldn't see her again, but congratulated her. She replied "Me too. We'll have to get that drink sometime". I told her "Absolutely. Are you free next week?" No reply.
So, my biggest issue here is I don't want to get too pushy, but if somebody hasn't replied, is there a time/way to say again, 'Well, what's up?'
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well id say you are sort of in limbo with both of the girls.Youve asked for dates and theyved sort of given you the runaround, so to speak. Might be playing hard to get.
You are sort of in the same situation with both girls.
Youre going to have to be really direct for one last time with both of them, IMO I would text or call both of them and just say in both instances that girl one : How about the Disney movie this sat at 7?
simple. if she says no then Id say not interested.
Girl 2 How about getting a drink this sat at 7?
yes or no.
IF they keep leading you on after that then I might say they aren't interested0
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