I met this girl online, we talked for a couple of weeks and just me up yesterday. Upon meeting up, I'm 99% sure she is not the same person in the pictures she was sending me, or had on her profile, no blue eyes (We're really blue in the pics). I am not attracted to the person that I met up with, thought the girl in the pics she had was rather cute. I don't know if these pictures were from her years and years ago or what. I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to lie to her either and continue on with this when it honestly doesn't have much chance, since I lack the attraction that is important to any relationship. I don't want to hurt her by telling this. Would never tell her that I'm not attracted to her, wouldn't do that to her, like I said, I don't want to hurt her. I don't know what to do though. Please help
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There's no way to break it off with her without saying something that is going to hurt her. The other option is to just stop contacting her and ignoring all of her messages, etc. but I highly do not recommend that since my ex did that to me and it hurt more than it would if he would've just told the truth. Just be frank with her and tell her you don't feel like she is right for you, and that you think she is a lovely lady who deserves someone better than you for her. Chances are she was sending pictures of someone else anyways, and when you catfish someone and fall in love with them you aren't going to get the reaction you want when you reveal your true self to them.
If she did catfish you, she was setting herself up for hurt anyways because not only was she not the person you expected, but if she'll lie about that what else will she lie about? I would recommend breaking it off with her as soon as possible instead of continuing to lead her on as that will only make things more complicated.