With stories like how girls go out to dinner and disappear and get a reality show for it do you think guys are going to be more likely to be on the defensive about taking girls out when we keep hearing about how many disappearing acts go on nowadays?
If a guy takes 4 girls out to dinner at 25 bucks each and none of them want to date further the guy's out 100 dollars. Are we really going to tell a guy to "keep trying" and potentially not pay his bills? But then we hear that girls want to be taken out and that it's supposed to be a "guy's job" to pay.
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I prefer when a guy lets me pay my part so I don't feel pressured to keep dating him or to have sex with him. A ton of guys feel like she owes him something, when he's the one with the higher interest level most of the time, since he's the one who asked her out. I like splitting, because it evens the playing field.
Many guys I know stick with coffee or a few drinks first to get a feel for the girl and if she's just in it for free stuff.
However, a lot of girls go out with guys they aren't very attracted to or find annoying because she feels pressure to "give him a chance." Girls are always being scolded that they should learn to like who likes her and that she's a bad person for not reciprocating feelings a guy has for her. We feel a lot of guilt when we aren't interested in a guy. We may try to force ourselves to become interested in him by going out a handful of times. So, you end up paying to hang out with someone you don't really want to spend time with. From our perspective, imagine going out three times with someone you aren't very excited about because it's your duty to "let him grow on you."
I imagine that guys find themselves out with girls who they quickly lose interest in, however. Like they ask her out and find her looks agreeable, but then something about her personality grates him the wrong way. Of course, some guys shoot for getting laid anyway, since he picked her out of sexual attraction anyway ... these guys are the equivalent of the freeloader girls.
It's no walk in the park for us ladies, it's no walk in the park for men. Dating in general, is a pain.