I've been seeing this guy for two months. In the beginning, it was he who initiated our first date and so forth. He would always text me, saying how beautiful I was and so forth. Mind you, I didn't start liking this guy after 3 weeks of seeing each other - he was always the on in constant worry that I was going to dump him. But I didn't, I grew to like him - and I spent the night at his place one weekend where he asked to if I wanted to be his girlfriend. I said yes, I mean he was so happy the next morning to call me "his girl". Than a week went by, we were suppose to meet up on a Thursday but he called it off because he was busy - so I went out with some of my girlfriends that night, where he continued to text me to come over and spend the night - but I couldn't because of the distant. So the next night, he wanted to see me and told me that he felt I didn't want to be close with him - so I went and met up with him. I was drunk, we had sex, and I didn't hear from him until that Monday after I sent him an angry text. He didn't respond until the Saturday of that week - apologizing for the delay in response & for leaving me confused and asked if I wanted to talk. So I let him wait for a day and texted him back, to meet me at a certain place so we can talk - but he couldn't and asked if he can call later that day. Well, of course I said yes. Obviously I couldn't wait so I texted him how I really felt about him, about me doing my part to continue on or rather "fight" for this relationship - and I haven't heard from him since, 4 days later.
I have come into terms that he most likely won't call or text me. Which is fine, it happens, its life, and you move on. What I don't understand is why hasn't he given me any sort of closure? I won't mind the rejection, I was hoping we can still be friends - but it doesn't look like that will happen.
So men, what do you think? Do men actually "break up" with a girl by not saying it officially?
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I don't know what his deal is. And I can tell you that I have no idea if men actually break up with people by just dropping out of contact. But I can tell you from experience that plenty of girls seem to think it's perfectly acceptable to break up with a guy without saying anything. Some just think that if they ignore us that we'll get the hint. I had one Girlfriend who even broke up with my by just disappearing. So yeah... I can't say that men break up with women like this. They might but I don't know. All I can tell you is that there are a f***ton of girls that do it.
Anyway I'll tell you this too. It's a good thing you've come to terms with it. If he calls again it might be a good idea to just tell him where to go and how to get there. At this point based on your story he sounds like he's full of sh*t. So good for you for moving on. It's best to forget him.2
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