So we're starting out casual, no string or labels. Initially, we both had our reasons for wanting a short term fling but with the perks of a real relationship. But after we actually met, BOOM, we just clicked. He started falling for me after we had sex.
OK, so I most definitely know we're falling for each other, and now we both want this. We're still scared. We both have the habit to rush all in at once and then get really hurt because we didn't really take the time to get to know the other person.
Neither of us knows how to go slow, or how to have ANY kind of relationship that isn't sexual or completely platonic.
He's been slipping up a ton and dropping all the hints that it's getting hard for him too not to call me his GF. He even got onto the topic of credit scores, "just in case I was curious for 'our' future" last night! LMAO We're not even in a committed relationship, so yeah, he's feeling it too.
So I need some tips, advice, help on how to keep myself calm and in check, and not scare him or make him feel pressured. It really hard NOT to ask about some of the hints he drops, but when I do, he get's really shy again.
I'm doing just fine with this, and the pace. I can wait and be patient, because he really makes me feel like I can be me. I trust him, and I feel so calm and safe with him. I DO NOT want to screw this up by getting rushed. HELP! Please? lol
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you should probably have this conversation with HIM. How else will you know what the other is thinking, wants, and needs in the relationship right now. Tell him you like how things are and that taking time is not a problem for you. At this point, you guys really don't need labels. And if it does so happen that labels are thrown around and used no big deal, just take the punches as they come. :)0
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