I have been talking with this guy for 2-3 weeks. We both have a busy schedule, but he texts me good morning everyday and calls to talk almost every other night after work and tell me his schedule. He would also talk to me about his friends and has made me snacks. He has not said "I like you" directly but said things like, "That's how you are, and I like it" a few times. He has asked if he could take me out before. He has also asked if I wanted to be his girl one time while I was half-asleep on the phone.
Recently we went out to have a drink and he held my hand while we were on the streets n stores. Then we went to his place because he wanted to cook for me. It was late and he wanted me to stay overnight and I did. We had sex the next morning. He made me breakfast afterwards and his brother happened to call him wanting to drop by. He let him come and introduced us by names. He later on referred me to his brother as his girl. When he dropped me off, I was going to just get off the car because I was not sure what we were, but he told me to give him his kiss.
We spent the next night together as well and he cooked for us. He woke up early in the morning because he had things to do but let me sleep. I overheard his friend calling him on the phone probably wanting to go over to his house but he told the person "I have company here today", and "she's sleeping now". He let me sleep until late morning and prepared brunch for me.
I felt like we're FWBs because referring me as "company" made me feel like he's pulling distance between us, but I had a friends with benefits before and he did not like to (and would not) hold my hand or be kissed in public; he would not prepare foods for me or contact me as often neither. How do I know where this is going without having to ask him awkwardly out of nowhere?
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You need to directly ask him.
I can't say for sure, but generally, if a guy insists on having certain aspects of girlfriend treatment, yet doesn't make things official, it's usually because...
1.) he has commitment issues
2.) he's using you
Women really just have to be careful about getting too emotionally invested when a guy hasn't officially committed to them because that's how hearts get broken : / That's how women get used and I honestly believe it's the leading cause of "bad girls".
Anyhow, based on the information given, it's evident that he is fond of you. You just have to be realistic about the fact that if you give it up to a guy too early, many of them will get bored or disinterested in experiencing you on a certain level. I hate to say it, but it sounds like he was interested in you as a girlfriend at first but for some reason, as time passed, that interest decreased. You're going to have to have that 'define the relationship' talk with him to really find out how he views you.0
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