Why do guys on the internet send the first message with nothing more than "hey" or "how r u"? Like why don't they put some thought into it? Don't they know they'd have a much bigger reply rate if they did? It's clear to me that these guys probably message any girl without reading her profile.
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You would think so, but it actually doesn't always work out that way. I used to be an online dater in OKC and match. com and I was the type who would write 4-5 sentences showing my interest in the girl I was messaging. I legitimately read their profiles and was interested in them as a person, and I wanted them to know that. I usually got replies maybe 10-20% of the time.
My best friend online dated as well, and he was the opposite... he would copy and paste a generic message to girls... the interesting thing is he tended to get more replies than I did.
I think it all depends on what's at the top of the priority list when it comes to the girls whose receiving messages, etc.
I agree though, it is more respectable to show interest in the person, not just sending a "hey what's up" based on a profile picture.1