There comes a time when people need their own time, correct? You see, I'm living with my fantastic boyfriend and we're always together. Every now and then I ask for a little alone time, but he gets upset, sad, almost. I've been told by my therapist that I should have more alone time ( Because I've been filling my plate with plans, friends and work) but, my boyfriend still wants to spend 24/7 with me. Don't get me wrong, I love him dearly, just I wish I could get some alone time to just take a breather, and maybe focus on myself for once. What should I do?
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I agree, sweetie, you should have some space, some time alone. No matter if you both are nestled like two birds of a feather in your love nest, or living in separate quarters in another branch. It's not healthy, nor wise, to be hooked at the hip That much, and not be able to mingle with other friends, do your own thing, such as even a hobby, or just some sort of "time out" for yourself. And of course, this goes for your fine feathered fellow as well.
You both need to sit down and have a serious convo about finding this time apart. However, you need to be more firm. Don't allow him to rule the roost when it comes to ruling your life, And some social life. He has to be told that at least Once a week, you need to spread your wings a bit, where you Both can "take a breather" from one another, and learn to Focus on yourselves. It will make for a better foundation for your relationship, and still keep you love birds chirping in the process.
If he stubbornly refuses, try and set up an appointment for you and him to go see your therapist. I think he may even have these insecurity problems, where he is afraid to let you out of his site, out from under his protective wing, for fear you're going to do something behind his back to break up His happy haven. A man who is This controlling with these sort of ideas, has a few issues of his own, and they need to be dealt with, or you could be in for more "bleak beak" problems in the future... Especially down the road if you both would ever decide to tie the knot. It needs to be nipped in the bud Now.
Good luck. xx0