Where is the best place to meet women other than bars so I can be in a serious relationship?
Most Helpful Guy
- Coffee shop
- Bed Bath & Beyond & similar stores (or the mall in general)
- Restaurants (but generally don't hit on the waitstaff)
- Sports/outdoor activities
- Social groups (people interested in a specific topic, who get together to talk about it)
- Grocery store
There are attractive women everywhere, but the big issue is that you have to have CONFIDENCE (ideally, and easy, laid-back confidence) and you have to be able to go up and talk to them for a couple of minutes, and then ask them out if you hit it off with them.
The trick to confidence is to NOT CARE if they say "no", because you realize that there are 5 other girls just in the location that you are at that might be fun to date, so if THIS ONE says "no", it's no big deal - you'll just move on to one of the others. Once you can stop stressing and worrying about hearing "no", you'll be relaxed and will find it much easier to talk to girls (because a "no" won't bother you), and because you are relaxed, your chances of getting a "yes" will go way up.
Another thing: before you even set out to ask girls out, plan at least 3 "dates" worth of activities, so you have thought-out options to offer the girl. A girl is much more likely to respond positively to a SPECIFIC date plan "hey, wanna go shoot some pool at Charlie's with me on Friday ?" vs "ya wanna go out sometime?" You want to get a specific date and time locked in, so that you have a SOLID date with her, before she walks away.
Finally, spend no more than $40 on a first date ($20 is even better!). You never want to try to impress a girl by spending money on her; that sends the wrong message, and you probably can't afford to sustain such spending anyway. Instead, impress her by NOT spending money on her, but rather by relying on your personality and thoughtfulness to keep her interested and entertained. Trust me, unless she's completely shallow, she'll be far more impressed that way.5
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