So I recently started liking one of my friends whom I known for 3 months now. Before I met her I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't ask anyone out until I met some personal goals first. During that time at first I felt like she liked me too. There was some initial interest. Over this period of time the more i got to know her better the more i started to like her. Now 3 months later , having met my goal i wanted to ask her out but before doing so when I saw her yesterday she said that she's been "seeing someone" from her work as she casually explained how her weekend was and when I asked her for how long she said for about a month but she doesn't call him her boyfriend and rejects the title when I playfully teased her about it (I was kinda nervous )
Sorry for run on sentence. Haha.
So I don't know what to do now. We both have a lot of common interests but don't know what to do with this other guy in the picture. Should I ask her out to casual date like coffee or tea per say or should I move on since they've been seeing each other for about a month now? By moving on I mean telling her I can't see her anymore and that we should stop being friends after telling her how I feel (if the feelings not mutual) because I don't think I can handle being friends with her knowing that I like her but she's with someone else. It kinda just hurts.
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I know exactly how you feel, I`ve been there, so my advice to you is from personal experience:
Her being with someone shouldn`t stop you from trying to ask her out. If you make her see you are a better person and that you love her, she might reconsider and go out with you instead. The best way to do this is to ask her about her relationship with the guy. If something is wrong or if there is something she doesn`t like about him, you can show support and discretely show your best qualities/features. That way, she`ll see that you care about her and want to be by her side, but try not to make it look like you`re being friendly otherwise you`ll end up in the "friend zone". Gaze in her eyes, be compassionate, hold her hand - make her see you wish to be more than friends. From there, you can slowly move on to asking her out.
I hope I was clear enough :D0