I initiated a text conversation twice and the last time he said that we will get together soon. He has been really busy with preparing for a conference and work and I know that, but we haven't talked in almost a week! I am getting worried because we are still in the one month stage of hanging out/maybe dating/not getting too serious stage. I potentially want more out of this and am afraid he will not initiate the next conversation or make plans. Am I being too clingy or paranoid? How long should I wait to ask if we ever going to go out again when he clearly said did want to. Is it bad we do not talk often? Is he losing interest in me?
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Being you Are in the beginning stages of not really knowing where you stand and where it might lead to with him, you have every right to feel----"paranoid." You don't know him that well, so you feel as though he could be losing interest and not "initiate conversation or make plans."
I have found that with today's toms, many of them are not always on the yarn ball when it comes to talking and texting. If there are no ties or strings attached to Anyone, they push their own buttons anytime they feel like it, and don't seem to give a rat's behind who is waiting and wondering on the other line.
Although he is this busy business beaver, and it has been almost a week since you last heard from him, I think the best thing to do right now, is wait it out and let him come to you with the next convo. You have already initiated Twice, and he has told you that he has been busy, and that the both of you will be "getting together soon." If you push a few of your own buttons again, you just may botch things up, and another chance to form your own "conference" with him, and you certainly don't want to come off as----"clingy."
No, I would not suggest you mention anything about "ever going out again." If you're in the first baby stages of "walking on eggs" with him, you don't want him to grow cold duck feet and end up waddling back into the murky waters. Some guys are strange in their own right about certain things when it comes to girls and getting together. They have their own mindset of how they want to work it, and any "interference" makes them agitated and sometimes even---disappear for awhile.
For now, see what happens in the next few days. Although frustrating and scary, take your mind off of this by focusing on something else. Don't drive yourself crazy. And never know...he may be in the habit of being this sporadic text tom, and if that's the case, you may as well start getting used to it now.xx0