I know this is probably a really strange question, but I met this guy about a year and a half ago when we were both traveling through a mutual friend. We instantly connected on so many levels and talked for hours and eventually (two days later) hooked up. At the time both of our lives weren't exactly organized into the formal grow up, get a job, get married have kids, grow old together system we had both sort of formed our own paths. Anyway we continued on as really good friends with benefits. At one point I confided in him about how upset I was that my best friend from childhood was having issues with her girlfriend and she was blaming me (basically she was jealous and not smart enough to hide it) and so he wasn't able to really be there for me as a friend. I was really missing my friend in that moment and I just kinda started bashing relationships mostly in the sense of the ownership of it all... Now after time has passed and my life is becoming more organized and I am starting to grow up and barely starting to get those urges to have a family etc I'm starting to wonder if I screwed things up with my soul mate by wording things wrong... I mean this guy has been there for me through thick and thin and seems to adore me no matter what, but did I close the door completely for anything more?
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I think the future idea was to be with this guy in your mind and likewise for him. The rant may have thrown all that away, look at it from a practical and logical point of view. You wouldn't want to be friends with someone who one day starts to bash the friendship you have would you? I don't want be friend if all my homies want to do is talk shit about me in front of me or behind my back regardless, he still said it. So in that sense why would he want to keep dating you or be around when you are spewing negativity about whatever it is you guys have. Just saying as a man I wouldn't be around a girl who I have been dating for all of a sudden to wake up have her saying that there's no use being in a relationship? However it was during while you were upset, did you guys ever fully talk about since you haven't said that exactly in your question. With all this being said, you did say that he's been there for you through the thick and thin, if he doesn't want a relationship with you, but offers his friendship and that's all will you be accepting to that idea? Sometimes real good friends are hard to come by, just a thought. I hope I was of some help.0
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