My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years. he's never been abusive or controlling no signs of it or anything. Recently we got into an argument about something small we didn't get physical or yell or nothing. Just us both laying on my bed debating about it. At one point I got upset about how he was acting like everything he says is right so I turned away from him. He grabbed my arm hard and it hurt but I figured he's not aware of it hurting me. So, I pulled my arm away and turned away from him and said "Stop grabbing me" which he ignored and grabbed my arm again to turn me over. Except this time it was rougher and harder so I pulled away but he was gripping me hard so I shoved his hand off and told him "I said stop grabbing my arm because its hurting me when you do that!" and he replied with "Well I wouldn't do it if you would stop turning away from me"..I was shocked that he acted like it was my fault because I wanted to turn away from him I never thought it'd get physical.. Is this only the beggining will it get worse?
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I have been there and done that. He feels that you guys have been together for so long that its okay to do this because you have been together for so long and you won't leave him. It won't get worse just the arguments will get louder and he will grab your arm again. I would be up front and honest with him and let him know how you feel about this situation and your concerns. Have this talk when you are both in a good place and not in a bad mood.0