I've gotten out of a failing long term relationship and am utterly confused as to where to find an eligible nice guy my age. At 25, past college, living in the more suburban area of NYC and working primarily in a female/married men/gay men occupied industry (which I truly enjoy but can't rely on for social mingling), I am currently clueless when it comes to knowing where the single guys mingle these days.
I am not interested in:
club/bar scene (got over that in college)
online dating (tinder was entertaining but not much substance)
men over 40 (experience is nice but I prefer someone with more energy and less bitterness towards a female, of course that's not all older men but this is my preference)
guys who are still (or permanently) in bad boy mode
I do not want to rely just on good fortune, so thank you for any insight. :)
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I get your list of non-interests, think I'm on the same page.
To my experience, it helps if you just let people keep an eye out for you.
Have your friends know, truthfully, what you are looking for and have them fix you up.
You have to be polite though, if you do agree to meet someone and he's terrible... Make the most of it and give constructive criticism towards your friend. Otherwise they won't look for you anymore.
Having people fix you up WILL result in going on bad dates.
But at least you will go on dates and meet new people. If you have a girl friend who is dating a great guy, ask her if he has any nice single friends. I know it sounds like a fifties strategy but what worked then still works now.1