How can I stop caring what people think of me negatively? I'm always preoccupied what others may think of me but I never put myself first.. any ideas on how I can change this behavior? Thanks. ..
How to not care what people think of me?
What Girls Said 5
I was lucky in that during my time in college, I had an awesome young prof. who introduced us to some grad level concepts. He talked a lot about certain philosophies addressing this - how society instills this mentality in us, which forces us to conform to society's standards.
This leads to us knowing we are always being judged to those standards and we want to fit in, but long complex story short, it's up to US to see through that and re-claim our own personal freedom.
Realize that such propaganda preaching certain standards and values exists to maintain order, which is fine, yet also realize you can still be yourself and it only makes you more original/unique and FREE of these expectations. You can't please everybody, so please yourself and be YOU :)1
i wish i knew, i am the same way most times. however i try to find something i love (in my case, being around my dogs) and focus on that, then i just loose track of what others think and when it comes to being labeled as crazy dog lady, i embrace it lol... however i mean i know people think i am ugly and such. not really much i can do there. even if i think i am alright looking1
I struggle with the same thing. I just try to always remind myself that everyone has different tastes. Its literally impossible to please everyone or fit into ideal for beauty is. I think that's why its so difficult to be confident in your physical appearance. You hear people say one type is perfect so then you begin to think that's what you need to look like. But then you Iar other people say that some other type is perfect so you again think that's what you are supposed to look like. The biggest thing is you are the only person you should be trying to please. There will always be people who find you beautiful and people who don't, but you are the only one who's opinion actually matters. And remember, you are the only you in the world. There is no one else in the world that is exactly like you and that is incredibly attractive.1
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You're not the RMB will not let any one person to do all the praise to you, the people who care about you will understand quite naturally to you, do not care who you are, why you care about his ideas, the relaxation to relax it!0
Show that you care about other people think about you，You are very care about your image，You idea is exquisite，It's bad not establish yao0
What Guys Said 4
No, no you want to think about what others think of you. Your filter is broken because you're afraid to dirty it not because you need a new one. Use it. Listen to other people, get offended, and learn the difference between meaningful attacks and petty nonsense.
It is that sensitivity and vulnerability that will make you wiser, stronger, and more able to shrug off the things that do not matter. Take it to heart. Let it burn a little. Then work through it and go from there. The reality is that as long as you refuse to use the filter you take in all of it, good and bad, external and internal, and then you grow more and more paranoid as you go.0
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personally my phones wallpaper got the following written on it:
"wolves dont lose sleep over the opinion of sheep"
and it always help to remind me not to give a fuck about the BS of other people :)0
You should probably "dissolve" in something you love to do. Do you love spending your time skiing, riding a bicycle, painting or simply doing some math work? Then just do what you think you enjoy doing and you'll slowly forget about the people who think of you negatively.0
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