I met a guy online from another country. He's real and we video chat and know plenty of personal info. He's very open with me. If anything, I've kept a few things private just because I feel more comfortable that way. Like I know his address but I haven't given out mine.
Anyway. I don't think we would be good for eachother because I think he's hung up on an ex, and he's got terrible work ethic. Also he sort of relies on me in a way that says I may not be able to emotionally rely on him if need be. He's kinda dropped the ball there.
But I think it would be fun because we absolutely click. We talk for hours and hours. He's told me he has feelings for me. We are openly attracted to eachother. We are so similar in lots of ways.
I don't have the money to see him at the moment (well technically I do, but I should have more in savings first)
I really want to just get together and have a date or something. We have talked about this. But it sort of seems crazy, money wise and the fact that I see red flags. He has even said he's not ready for a relationship anyway. I'm not looking for one. I wouldn't "hook up" with him, maybe just a kiss. That is how I am, so there's no danger of sex or anything.
Just seems sort of silly, lot of money and effort to sort of satisfy a need of him. I want to meet him.
He also tries to get me on the wagon to go over there rather than he come here. He knows out of the two of us that I have the money. He probably wants to satisfy the same craving but have me do all the work.
So I'm really not sure. What would you do? We have been in daily contact for a year now.
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I wouldn't date anyone online that wasn't local or within 30-45minutes tops from me. It's seriously a risk and the chances of it going anywhere are so slim. Some people have some crazy stories but there's so many more cases of stand ups, it just being a hook up, and so on. Plus he's "not ready" for a relationship and hung up on his ex. You could end up throwing money out the window for a date of him doing nothing but talking about his ex. Plus, you're expected to do all this spending to see him and say you don't see any effort on his part. It sounds lazy.
If you're looking for more, it's definitely not him.0