I've just been having the worst luck with dating recently and I just want to know how all of you guys do it, and why I seem to suck so bad at it.
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online dating. OkCupid. If you try it, you will probably have absolutely horrible experiences, weird experiences, one nighters, and maybe meet someone who super amazing. I started online dating about eight months before I met my boyfriend. I'm female and live in a big city, so meeting people was really easy for me. I hear it's more difficult for men because women are often less forward (unlike me, I messaged SO many guys). After some "dates" where the dude showed up hours late and I walked out on him, some where I decided I wasn't into him and he didn't seem into me and we hooked up for some great times, and some where the guy was into me and I wasn't reciprocating, I got a message from my boyfriend and was at least mildly interesting, nothing personal, just a quick comment from him about something I put on my profile, I decided to reply (didn't even look at his profile). We started having a crazy message back and forth and quickly decided to meet. Haven't looked back.
I actually didn't think he was uber cute or anything from his profile, but when I saw him he looked way better in person and I was immediately interested. Plus, he's very friendly and that looks great to begin with so hotness/handsomeness just gave him a nice bonus. We met somewhere we could just walk around until we found a place to get a drink, and then we talked for five hours straight about both pretty hefty, things that spoke about our core selves, insecurities, values, like how to act in certain situations, how to better yourself etc ., and pretty light stuff, like dumb animals and favorite foods. Similar interests were key to future dates.
It's worked so far! I've had doubts only about mundane things, like how we would have to work out a living situation together, and pressures, like whether we'd be able to survive long-distance, but in terms of getting along, so far it's taken being really honest and communicating. READ: Build REAL trust.0