I'm 24, female, virgin, forever alone and it seems like it might stay that way till I kick the bucket. What is more disturbing to me is that I don't even want to meet guys because I have this strong mindset that guys are mostly taken, gay or single for a good reason.
Some background: Went to an all girls school environment till 16, didn't interact with guys much until I entered college. I used to be really socially awkward (much better these days) and so I didn't make much friends till the past few years. I've had guys who liked me but they were way too young (>4 years age difference) and I felt it was just because they thought I would be easy to catch.
I've been burned very badly by one guy friend. He did the "we are more than friends but...", citing that I was too fat and not pretty enough so he would never hold my hand in public. That was a huge blow to my self esteem. This guy was a complete player, different girl every other week, and I was the 'pal' who hung out before I got too close. Thanks to that, I can spot dating trick wayyy in advance, and it just makes me laugh cynically (i.e. the younger boys). I have a few other close male friends but I'm always the 'bro' since I like football and video games. Among the girls, I have a really pretty good friend and I would be the one that walks to the side whenever a guy comes to ask for her number, which happens pretty often.
So I am currently in the process of losing weight because I've been told that I'm pretty and I would like to look my optimum before my looks fade in my late 20s. The crazy thing is that boys are nowhere in my consideration and I don't even feel like going on Tinder because I simply do not care. I'm not sure if this is a good development or will I become less jaded one day. I'm actually kind of embarrassed that I'm forever alone and a virgin and it's reaching the point where I meet new people, they ask me how many ex-s I had and I don't know how to respond. Any tips?
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Lose the weight because you want to be happy and it makes you feel better. Look for someone that fits you well because it makes you happy and you want to have a happy life. And well know what you want to give you a happy life. For most its a best friend so go about things that way. Look for a friend and don't look at them as a potential marriage mate because I lost my virginity at 23. I was wanting to wait and marry the right person and well its hard to do. Relationships have to have friendship so look for that first and relax and improve your health because that draws us in. Its a good personality that seals the deal. Dont let em push you around but look for someone that actually has your and their interests together for a happy future or experience. Remember being overweight lets you and them down. And they can let you down by not being thankful to have a friend that would actually enjoy them for the right reasons.. If it gets serious keep them with love making and passion but its all about your personality and you not being miserable to be around. Dont carry chips on your shoulder they dont suit you. Instead if they seem to be too insecure to appreciate you talk to them and see how they develop. Anything else just ask.0