I know people communicate in different ways, so my concern is that he doesn't write long messages to me, only short ones and doesn't ask anything about my life. Me and him live in different countries but have agreed to visit each other because we really like each other. I visited him once and we really hit it off with tons of passion and lively conversation, but the last day before I left he was really distant and didn't act like he was wanting to pursue me anymore. I messaged him first when I left, so now I feel stupid because I'll never know if thats the only reason he's been talking to me. When we were together he was really insistent on starting a relationship with me and possibly moving to the same city this year. I don't know what to do because now I feel like I will take the back burner and he will forget about me, which is something he didn't want me to do to him. Should I just stop writing to him for a while to see his reaction? He always responds really nicely, but I want him to take the initiative and visit me in my country this time so that I know he isn't just doing this because he's lonely or something. Anyways, the mixed signals are driving me crazy.
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It's tough being in long distance relationships. I was in one so I know how it feels.I do think in order to keep the passion going that your right the messages should be longer.He should visit you in your ocuntry since you took the intiative and visited him in his country. The only bad part like you said is if one person looses interest which can happen.I think you shouldn't have to be the one writing all the time and intiating things.He should od it on his own as well.I think long distance can work but both parties have to be on the same page.Since you visited him the cold reaction he gave you before you left wasn't a good sign.Maybe that was his way of missing you, etc. When you visited him did he do anythign special for you?1
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