We have been dating for 4 months. He has not asked me to be his gf yet. He knows I kind of would like that..I have not been putting pressure on him for it..but everynow and then I do get a bit frustrated at him. I question him often being like how can you keep expecting me to act like I am in a relationship (not talk to other guys/ see them etc) and yet not actually be in a relationship..he keeps making up excuses being like well its not ready yet..etc etc I feel he doesn't actually want a relationship with me and yet he keeps saying he only wants me. He is quite secretive with things like his phone as well. I jsut don't know what to believe. I am sick of dating I want a relationship or to be with other guys. Whenever I say this to him he gets angry and things just dont seem to be progressing and I feel stuck. What do i do? I do not think I am being pushy or needy for a relationship its jsut he basically makes me act like I am in one..so I dont see why I can't have the benefit of actually being in one. It is almost like he wants his cake and to eat it too
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DoctorSec is right. You two aren't on the same page and he isn't ready for more. I think this sets up so much bad feelings for you to endure, best to walk away from this one in spite of the fact that you may care for him.
BUT you can learn from this. If you are not the type of girl who wants to get involved (read, have sex) with men who are not committed, you must state your preference at the outset to see if the guy wants the same thing.
Now MANY men will LIE, saying they want something real just to get inside your pants, it's hard to know who's honest and who's not. So you can make them wait. If they stick around in spite of no sex, it means usually they too are looking for more.
Men bond differently than woman, and we think sex makes them fall in love, it doesn't.0
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