Okay we'll I'm 13 and I don't know when I can start doing stuff I don't want to be known as a slut but I have guys that want to do stuff and I always turn them down. What should I do?
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No, that's a normal age to be getting into that stuff. Just remember that guys shouldn't be your top priority until you finish high school. That's not to say there can't be guys in your life, just try to keep it in perspective that 99.9% of the time, the guy from high school isn't "the one." Its fine to explore the romantic side of life though, that's a beautiful thing. Just don't get caught up in peer pressure and doing stuff you don't want to do. The best advice I can ever give someone your age is "none of this junior high and high school stuff matters." You go through all types of BS and worry about impressing this person or that person, getting caught up in being cool. I mean, that's a part of your development as a person, but again, keep it in perspective. At 35 now, and even 15 years ago at 20, I am/was in contact with exactly 0% of the people, I was friends with back then. The same people that I did all types of dumb things to be cool. So, you'll obviously make mistakes and do dumb things, just try to keep them to smaller mistakes, and remember you won't even know these jokers once you get older. At your age, just be safe, be smart, and try to do well in school. I know that sounds like a wicked old man thing to say, haha, but believe it or not, I was 13 once too, and the clothes and the music and the technology changes, but we all go through the same stuff basically, whether its 2014, 1994, or 1974. Always remember that. I blew off so much good advice from older people because I just assumed they were crusty old codgers who could relate to my life, but they aren't telling you this stuff just to hear themselves talk.3
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