My two guy friends were trying to help their friend out (who likes me) and so i told them what i looked for in guys.
I listed 5 qualities and explained them what i liked and didn't like in terms of actions.
-Funny (I'm sarcastic so..)
-Smart ( 80+ average)
-Don't show too much feelings
-Quiet/ calm doesn't talk too much
-Laid back ( Just chill out , lets cuddle, don't speak)
-Not clingy ( Don't hold my hand EVERYWHERE we go)
-Non smoker ( Not even up for discussion)
-Basically a GOOD boy
They came to a conclusion that i'm hard to get and intimidating?
-I have a serious face
-Don't usually approach
-I dress laid back and never cleavage showing
How is this hard to get? I have preferences... is that bad?
Too much maybe?
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Your qualities in what you look for a guy aren't bad at all. I can't keep quiet, I'm the type that's a free spirit and likes conversations but I do adapt to my environment so if you don't want to talk much and just sit there and not say much then okay but if you put a limit on how much a person can talk that's kind of constricting. It makes them have to be aware of themselves and not just in their natural state. I like my peace and quiet sometimes but then there would be times where life is just amazing and I just want to do stuff. We don't have to talk if you don't want too. I show moderate feelings. Again, depending on the environment I will show less feelings or more feelings, I'm usually a enthusiastic, passionate, driven, fun, random guy so yeah. Everything else I have down.
Your serious face is what makes you not approachable. Why would a guy approach a girl with a serious face? Your body language and face says it all if you are approachable or not. Don't usually approach? Well, that's okay BUT as long as you give non verbal signals that you want to be approach. That's fine if you dress laid back, as long as you're cute. It's good to dress different and make the guys go, "Wow.. You look beautiful in that dress." or "I like your outfit. You look gorgeous."
How is this hard to get? It's semi-hard. It feels like you shield yourself or put up a imaginary wall in some kind of way. You just don't want to put up with bullshit guys and that's fine.
I have preferences... is that bad? No, not at all. That's perfectly fine. You know what you want. But at the same time most people don't really know what they want until they come across a person who is the exception. You can't control who you love.
Too much maybe? Yeah, just a little haha.1