The guy I like is afraid of commitment because of an abusive ex he broke up with 8 months ago (we have that in common). Things are fine with us in person he acts like he likes me, we have "moments." But he makes plans with me even saying things like, "I'm determined to hang out with you! I've put this off for too long." But that same day we had plans, he didn't text me back. He hasn't texted me at all in over a week actually. But he still follows me at work and makes sure to see me before I clock in, hugs me, etc.
So my question is, how do I maneuver this? I know I need to be patient and wait, but in regards to him blowing me off what do I say? Should I just be like, "Hey if you're not ready to hang out with me yet, it's okay I understand. I'm patient, I can wait. I'm not expecting anything, I just like spending time with you."
He's a wonderful guy. I completely adore him so I'm willing to put in some time, I just don't want to say the wrong thing.
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Well I think there's nothing wrong with you reassuring him but at the same time don't let him take advantage. Yes, you're understanding but your patience will run thin sooner or later. You both have emotional baggage but you're willing to try again with someone new and you deserve someone who's willing to take a chance with you as well.0
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