How can I hang with the popular kids?
So this is my last year of high school and I've always wanted to chill with the popular guys.. I'm friends with a few of them but I never really hang with with them.. I don't understand why I'm not able to hang with them because I get just as many girls as they do and I have just as many friends but I don't know why but I've always wanted to hang with them.. so thanks if you can help and please be serious..
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Most Helpful Opinion
I don't really understand why you would want too. I played 3 sports in High School, and usually hung out with them during school because most of them were my friends but outside of school we all do our own thing. The only time I would hang out with them outside of school was when there weren't the popular girls around. So, like backyard football, videos games, or what have you. I purposely tried to stay away from most of the popular girls because a lot of them are so damn judgmental and politically correct that anything you do can offend them, and then on top of that they have the biggest mouths. Even against each other. There were a few girls that were cool, but most of them are just straight up bitches. I was one of those people that didn't care what people had to say. I remember one of those popular girls saying something nasty to me in front of her friends trying to act cool, and then gloated about being so damn hot.
So, I said to her... Yeah, you may be very attractive physically, but that's all you are. Guys only use you as a piece of meat because you may be a 9 physically but your personality is below a 0. And all your girlfriends here know this, they just refuse to admit this to your face.
I got along with almost everyone but the majority of the popular people.. mostly girls.. some guys as well, I could not stand. And when I mean everyone I mean everyone. I would hang out with the nerds/geeks somedays, others I will chill with the goths and emos, and other days the popular kids... and let me tell you something, being popular isn't what it's cracked up to be. If all you want is attention and for these popular kids to like you... then you won't be able to fit in. You can't just force your way into a group. Just be who you are, I know that sounds cliche and it is but I'm serious. Oh, and one last thing... out of all the people I was friends with... the ones I have lost contact with the most were the popular kids, the ones that I couldn't care less about anymore... are the popular kids... If it wasn't for me being an athlete, I don't think I would've ever become friends with the popular kids. Sure, some were cool and most weren't. Also, the ones that I thought were cool tend to be a lot like myself. We would sometimes hang out but almost never hang out with the other group of popular kids.
I guess some people would say I was popular since everyone knew who I was, but I definitely wasn't a "cool guy". I never got invited to parties with these popular kids, and that was the way I liked it. They were cool to chill with from time to time in school, but outside of school... not so much. If the people you connect with happen to be the popular kids then so be it... if they happen to be the WoW nerds, the band geeks, the goths etc etc, then they are the people you should probably hang out with. You will feel much more comfortable being yourself and not forcing yourself to fit in.
What Girls Said 4
Don't. Seriously. Don't.
Most people dream of being the popular group. But I have left school and you know what?
The popular group, about 80% of the girls are pregnant, or had at least 2-3 children already. The guys are all working in dead end jobs, or so drugged off their face they've no idea what's going on. They barely speak to each other.
So.. really don't bother. I know it looks fantastic, but the reality is most of the jokes don't make sense, most of the girls have candy floss between their ears, and even if you got into that group, you'd feel lonely, bored, and ignored.
What is wrong with the friends you have? Why don't you hang out? Girls are more likely to go for the men who know what they want and not leaching off others.
If you are seriously desperate to become one of them, go and talk to them. Stand. Laugh. Act like a retard. Dress like them. Listen to their music. Basically become their groupie. I doubt it will work because they will have already judged you, but you seem insistent on trying.
This is retarded... Why would anyone want to hang out with people who are NOT their friends...
Because if they WERE your FRIENDS you wouldn't have to find an excuse or search for a strategic idea to be able to kick it with them...
INSTEAD Hang out with people who ARE your friends and aim to turn YOUR crowd into the popular crowd instead of trying to fit in where they see you as less.
My sister is popular and I asked her one day what someone could do to be popular and this is what she said (I'm putting it in my own words):
Dress cool. Know what's in style and have some swag. Look your best and wear what looks good on you, but stay current and keep up with the trends
Have a nice body. most popular kids have nice bodies. There are a few who don't but they aren't the majority.
Play a sport. Be athletic, most popular people are athletic in some way and play at least one sport
Be friendly and outgoing to others. Be generally positive
Don't be a lame. People can tell when you're sucking up to them and if you really really wanna hang with the popular kids, don't hound them. Don't try to fit in, you either do or you don't. Don't suck up to them or stalk them. If someone likes you and wants to hang out with you, you can't force it. That will just make them look down on you and not respect you.
Don't be an a**hole but don't be weak either. speak your mind. If someone is rude to you, put them in your place, even if that person is really popular. People will respect you when they know you won't let people run all over you
Don't hang out with losers. You don't have to only hang out with popular people, people in the middle range are fine, but don't hang out with people who are really bad outcasts and severely disliked. It's like an infection and they don't want it to be spread. if you're seen with certain people its like social suicide and people won't want to associate with you either. I guess they could 'catch' the loserness or something LOL