I occasionally hear secondhand (from my friends) that one of their guy friends will think that I am "cute," or something along those lines, but these guys will seldom strike up conversation with me or show any type of interest. I didn't think that guys were that shy, especially if they find a girl "cute." Could it be that they are not interested? I find that people will go after what/who they want. It is frustrating because guys seldom pursue me. I used to be shy, but I am not anymore. I am 23 and I really want to find that special someone. I put myself out there and I don't know what else to do to find a decent guy to date.
Age 23? While your age states that you're under 18 here.
Well, if you want to find some decent guys to date, you're right when you need to put yourself out there. Hang out a lot with your friends. Plan activities with them and allow them to invite their friends. You can meet some decent guy if you're always going out and be socially active.
You can also spend your time at some coffee shops/parks alone. Girls at these places are always approach by decent guys.
In a perfect world, guys would go after what they want, but in reality that is not the case. You need to show some interest if you want attention. Tell your friends you also like the guy, let them pass it on to him, and then see if he approaches. Or give him some eye contact/smile. Or, god forbid, say hi!
Wrong but right. Guys today are wimps 10 percent (made up) get like 90 percent of the women. Asertive guys like myself are a dying breed because there so wound up over a girls opionion of them. Rejection is a part of life but most guys woyld rather play coy than risk taker and they suffer hard for it
When you put yourself out there is it forced or did you find the inner you and are comfortable around people now so your words flow freely. I'm a bit off put by a woman if what she says sounds forced. If she tries to hard to let me know she's there it is also a bit off putting. She could be cute but if she does either of these it's not likely I will pursue. I don't know if this is the case or not., just a thought.
Guys are shy. Only the most bold will really approach or hit on girls most of the time. I personally have never really liked most of the guys who make all the first moves. They can often be creepy or douchey. To get the good guys, the girl usually has to do SOMETHING to show interest.
It sounds like you *are* cute. Guys just need a little more help getting to know you.