so I have this friend, and she is constantly pointing out other peoples flaws and making jokes about them and such. she does it really hush hush though because she wouldn't like yell across the room the mean things she say about other people. It is to my understanding that people do this because they could be insecure about themselves, so they are constantly pointing out other peoples flaws to try and make themselves feel better and more secure about themselves. that of course isn't the only possible reason for this behavior though I know, but I've been getting insecure vibes from her for a while. her body language suggests it, her complains about how her outfit looks. anyway, I was taking with our mutual friend, and I was saying how maybe she feels insecure and that we should help her see how awesome she is and help her be more secure with herself. the mutual friend told the girl that I had suggested she was insecure (might I remind you I said maybe) and my friend is now really mad that I would think that. everyone has insecurities (including me) what do I do to fix this? does her reaction prove that she is insecure? I just want to help her be happy and to go back to being friends. also she knows that I wasn't so pretty when I was younger and was made fun of by girls like her, and it makes me mad to be on the other end. I don't want my lunch conversations to be making fun of people. how do I salvage this? was I wrong for even wanting to do something?
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You are definitely not wrong.You should know who you call your friends by the way they speak of others because they will do the same to you,Speaking ill of you to others and such a friend is not keeping. Try being more secure with yourself because it is who you are and nobody can change that. The moment you start accepting who you are will also let people accept you for who you are.1
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