Ladies, how do you feel when a guy comes up and talks to you and he isn't that attractive?
Do you look at him and think "this guy has no chance"?
Do you feel uncomfortable?
Do you want to get out of the situation as fast as possible?
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I agree with the ladies so far. Of course it depends on how the guy approaches me. Usually when this happens to me, the guy is real casual about striking up a conversation and I'm not usually presumptuous enough to assume he is hitting on me. And I am a friendly and fairly outgoing person that loves to meet new people so I will talk to him while trying to be clear through my body language that I'm not interested in him "that way". And usually the first opportunity where it feels natural I will let him know that I have a boyfriend (or now, that I am married) so that he can get out with his dignity before he actually starts doing anything more obvious.
But like the other ladies said, I won't dismiss a guy based solely on his looks unless he looks REALLY hideous. And I gotta say I haven't met too many guys who I think fall into that category. But I have an uncanny sense for people's character and can almost always tell in the first couple minutes whether I like someone or not. A guy who I don't feel something for in the first few minutes. I might grow to appreciate him down the road as I get to know him. But "giving him a chance" never works for me in those situations. It inevitably fizzles out fast. I know it sounds crazy but I knew 5 minutes into my first date with my husband that I would fall in love with him. Didn't know we'd end up married but I knew where my feelings were going to go. So my answer is based on finding a guy attractive or unattractive in this way. Not based on his looks.4