A girl told me and I quote "You're cute...for a black guy." I didn't say anything to her in person but man...haha It kinda made me mad. Why can't I just be a cute guy? Maybe someone can clear this up for me.
It was a racist compliment. This happens when someone wants to compliment another person who is from a different "race" and instead of simply saying "You're cute" they add for a (insert race) guy/girl. I understand why you're mad. I also would be if I were you. Some people think that black equals ugly and that's not true. She's probably one of these people. When somebody says something like that, they lose an opportunity to keep quiet.
That's gross. Even if people don't generally tend to be attracted to people of a particular race, they should never be rude and especially not flat out insulting. Also, just because *they* aren't attracted to black guys or Chinese guys or ______, that doesn't mean their opinion is the general view. Sigh.
Perhaps she said that to let you know that she's not usually attracted to black guys but you're attractive to her. Yea, saying '..for a black guy' is pretty mean and pointless. Maybe she didn't know that that was mean? I know a lot of people who are mean and they dont realize that
It's an insult. You have every right to be mad. She's basically saying the majority of black guy's aren't good looking but you are an exception. If a guy told me that (in which one has, but the girl version) i would rip him apart (and I did).
Well, she may not find most black guys attractive, but thought you were cute.
This is something I admit I think and talk will talk about with other people, just not that person or her friends.
For the most part, I'm not attracted to most black girls. But I've met and know of some that are gorgeous.
IMO, she was saying that she doesn't find black guys attractive, but finds you attractive. I'd take it as a pretty good compliment tbh. Think of it like this, what if her preference wasn't against black guys or she preferred, wouldn't that mean you're pretty damn good looking?
It could really go either way. And even is she didn't mean it in a racially-charged way, I'd say it's clearly not the best way to compliment someone.
For example, I wouldn't walk up to someone and say: "you're cute for a tall girl", or "you're cute for a blonde girl".
My guess is that she meant it as a compliment...maybe she isn't normally attracted to black dudes? Or maybe she doesn't have that much exposure to black guys, thus she's new to feeling attraction to one?
Don't make a big deal about it. She was probably raised in a white environment and not exposed to black people. Her grandparents are probably racist and hence she's used to seeing black people a certain way. Obviously she likes you if you changed her views from that. Also she is not racist, again it's the environment she was raised in (most likely I couldnt be 100% sure ofc). You know very well if a black girl that was raised in the hood, went to an all black school, hung out with all black guys and met a white dude she liked she'd use the exact same line.
Simply she normally hasn't been attracted to many black men prior to you. Maybe that means she hasn't seen many attractive ones or she hasn't gotten to know many black men which may be be required for her to have attraction.
I don't see the issue. I don't find certain groups of people very attractive. For example, I don't find English or Russian women terribly attractive either. Is it any worse to say "I think you're pretty good looking for a..." to a black girl than it is for me to say the same thing about a Russian girl?