Ok so I'm 128 lbs. 5'1" which is like 155 cm and my legs are almost normal in size I have a somewhat small torso and was wondering about what size I should get for my first Lolita skirt. I'm having trouble with this because the clothes are coming from Japan which are different from the U. S. sizes. I'm also having trouble getting my boyfriend to stop thinking of it as a fetish. If people did their research they'd realize it really is a street fashion. (Also It's not related to the freaky book people think of when hey hear the name the on similarity is the name and that's it.)
P. s. Lolita is a Japanese street fashion not a fetish so for those who are thinking wrong get it out of your head. >:I
m 57... hmm, i know diddly about Japanese street fashion, but i often find that girls who seek specific clothing items, be it short-shorts or schoolgirl or Lolita or whatever, often defend themselves against adult judgement by saying, "it's just a style". I say wear the damn things and enjoy. Not sure why you go to all the trouble hunting down these items and then offer dissertation as to what they mean or don't mean. And specifically you devote a special sentence to Nabakov's book. It's like you want to wear the skirts but you want to put up a billboard explaining what it does or does not mean. As for your boyfriend, well remember, the definition of fetish involves the narrowing down to precise anatomical parts. Other than the anatomical thing, your attempts to narrow down could be considered... well... fetishistic.
Even street fashion can be a fetish if you find it arousing. Hell, I think pyjamas can be quite sexy, too. I don't see anything wrong with the existence of fetishes unless they're extremely deviant and promote violence and inequality.
He can't help what he fetishises about... it's what he likes.
the term Lolita, although it is a street fashion in Japan, does come from the book Lolita. The main female character is a schoolgirl who the main male character is infatuated with and sleeps with. That's why the Lolita look is a sort of sexy schoolgirl, because of the book. By the way, Lolita was only 12 which is why people thing it's creepy and pervy.