This is a general question, and the other person need not be a romantic interest. Suppose you have to meet up with someone of the opposite gender (who may be a business acquaintance, a friend, a cousin/relative etc.), do your present yourself differently (with respect to your dressing, body language, way of talking etc.) than if the other person was of the same gender as you?
I personally do this a lot. I take a bit of lenience when I have to meet up with male friends or acquaintances, and I feel completely at ease with myself. But if its a female, I'm a bit too self conscious so I present myself somewhat differently (like I try to avoid even remotely objectionable words, am clean shaven, use a good cologne etc.). I mean... I'm somehow not as comfortable with meeting up females, as with males. I personally feel that I can be 'myself' only in the company of men.
- NoVote A
- Dpeneds on the personVote B
- YesVote C
Most Helpful Girl
I open up a little more around other women. Around guys though I feel self-conscious and panic. It's not like I shut down completely around them, it's just, I don't really talk about myself that much... i nudge the conversation towards them or some other topic.
But, being that my social life is generally nil, if I'm alone for too long, I panic about what to say when i DO open up... so in THAT case i'm fairly quiet around women, and half-quiet around men (as mentioned above)
It's kinda funny when i think about it :)3
Most Helpful Guy
I'm a shy person. And I feel nervous or uncomfortable around girls my age even if I have absolutely nothing for them. With girls I have trouble coming up with topics and even continuing conversations. I feel afraid of saying something stupid or embarrassing. I try to talk as little as possible but still enough to get the job done. Maybe that's the big reason why I haven't had absolutely any success with girls in my 24 years of life.
But I can easily talk to guys. No fear about saying something stupid or embarrassing. I can easily let it go. Guys won't go over to other guys and laugh or talk about me. And I won't do the same if some guy felt embarrassed about himself.0