what do like to see in him confidence,his style what?
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confidence and style and the way he carries himself overall-obvious reasons
and then trust is very important to me. I can't stand players or indecisive men who don't know what they want. You have to get married someday and settle down, so they need to grow up sometimes and be mature. At least try to be mature, no need in rushing.
i want my man to have ambition and be smart. He doesn't have to be a doctor or lawyer or anything, he should just have dreams and should work hard to achieve what he wants from life.
Sympathy and humanity are also important to me. One time I met this really cute guy, and he said he hates kids and animals. I immediately got turned off and never bothered with him again. I'm sorry, but humans were created to meet their reproductive success and you should by instinct want to be a parent someday...
i also like selflessness about a man. I think love is about selflessness. You can't be selfish and have a significant other. I've seen couples sometimes, and the guy or girl is always self obsessed and everything is about their selfish needs and wants. That's not true love. I would love to meet a man who actually cares about me genuinely, and I of course would do the same in return. When you love someone, you live for them. Or at least if you just like someone purely, you would care about how they feel and be there for them.
Respect is also important. Another obvious reason-self explainitary.
Communication is important. One of my guy friends was letting it out to me how his girlfriend dumped him, and he was upset, and when I asked him why she dumped him, he said 'she was mad at me for not contacting her or calling her in a month, because I was really busy with school and stuff.' This outraged me. A month is a long time. School is very important, but it doesn't mean you have to sacrifice other important things and people in your life to study and to eventually get a career. Life is short. You have to learn how to manage things, your schedule and time for people. You need a proper balance. Someday you will be married, and will have a real life career/job. Do you think it is okay not to talk to your wife for a month? no. You have to grow up be an adult. You can't just go on thinking 'its okay if I don't call my girlfriend for a month, shell understand.' And even if there was such a huge obstacle where he had to go away study abroad, do scientific research where he doesn't have access much to a phone or computer, he should at least let his girlfriend know 'hey ill be going away for a while ill miss you and keep in touch love you be back soon'. You can't just disappear on your own will and again-selfish wants. You have to talk to that person and work it out, let them know.
These are the most simplest things I expect from a man. And yet a lot of men I have met have all failed me, only a few can handle it.