My boyfriend is on vacation and I never call him because I don't want to bother him. All I ask is that he call me sometime during the day and before he goes to bed just so I know he's ok. He's been gone for a week and drinks every night there so whenever he calls it's either 6 A. M here or 3 P. M when he wakes up. But whenever he does finally call he acts like he hates talking to me. It really really hurts my feelings and I ask him to please stop being a jerk and he says I'm being an idiot. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I don't bother him at all I don't even text him! I let him call me whenever he wants to but our conversations never last more than 5 minutes. He acts like I'm an idiot for missing talking to him because it's "only been a week" So what am I doing wrong?
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The one thing I know you are doing wrong is making demands on when he should call you. Men seem to have this disconnection when they are being nagged or demanded to do something.
Look at it from his point of view. He's out partying with the guys having a blast and he's heading home to sleep off the night. The last thing on his mind - is F* I have to call her before I sleep. You know where that conversation is heading.
Now imagine this scenario: He's out partying with the guys having a blast, he takes a shot and thinks about the last time he was with you. He gets home, and picks up the phone to call you just because he wants to hear your voice before he hits the bed.
Honestly Jezibel, if you want to make this right. Next time he calls, tell him to enjoy his time, and not to worry about calling you each day and night. Let him know that you are thinking about him and tell him something sexy that he can look forward to when he gets back.
"Babe, I know you're having a great time, go have some fun, just know I'm thinking about you and when you get back, I have some. Waiting for you. " let him take that in and PLEASE end the conversation before he does. "I have to run now, heading over to Victoria Secret with (insert friends name) to look at some new lingerie they just released". Now call your best friend up, and hit the mall - get out of the house and have fun yourself.
Let your man be a man, and be a lady he wants to come home to. Don't ever be his mom or big sister - they're just not that hot in Lingerie!0