Alright, so I finally broke it off with my boyfriend. If you would like to know why or are interested in our history of issues you can check out the other two posts where I try to resolve our issues without breaking up:
Anyway, I basically walked out the door and hopped on a plane because he could not make up his mind on what he wanted in his life. The suckiest part of all this is that he told me, "If we were to break up, you would have to be the one to do it because I'm not strong enough and I don't have it in me to ask you to leave. (Although he made it clear he wants me gone).
So, he wanted me gone. I left.
I am now well over a thousand miles away, back in my home town, trying to mend my broken heart. I need tips, tricks, distractions...ANYTHING you can dish out at me that will help me nurse myself back to a reasonable state of mind.
I am suffering from major heart-ache syndrome: No desire to eat, no desire to do anything but mope, wanna call the ex, wanna curl up in a hole and disappear...I know all this is quite normal to feel after a two year break up but it's not healthy any I need some advice to make this tolerable.
Please and Thanks.
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Im sorry to hear that you are feeling like this.
I find the best way to get over someone is to first of all aknowledge you are ging to have to hurt for a bit-sit there and have a good old cry and let it all out,this is part of the process,its inevitable so you have to accept that.
Then get a pen and a bit of paper and write down all the reasons you left that person,seeing it written down on paper helps make sense of things-someone told me that once and I really found it to help.
You then need to focous on yourself and how to make yourself feel good again-get a new hair style,get your nails done,think about your career,listen to positive move-on music...do anything you think will cheer you up even if it is just tempory.
I would also think about some new hobbies/interests,this will give you somthing to do to take your mind off him,its positive and it will also make you feel good about yourself.
Heartache is horrible,but everyone goes through it at some point-i find remembering that can be helpful?
There are lots of things you can do to take your mind off it for a while-read a book,join sites on the net,watch a movie,go for a walk,write a book,spring clean,clean out your wardrobe,hook up with mates...whatever,anything helps.
Talk about it,ring your mates nd chew their ears off about it.
The only way to get over it is time,and telling yourself that is half the battle,everyday it will hurt a little less...goodluck I don't know if any of these help but I tried.1