Singapore ah? Very difficult lah; even if you hot also sure will still face this problem wan (probably). Becos it's not really about looks; is about our society. Very traditional, guys must be macho women must be girly and submissive, so everyone including the girls believe guy should do the chasing lo.
Best bet? Move to Western country or find very modern woman. Or maybe femdom. Otherwise might be susah lo bro. But good luck!