When you got married do you think you went more for personality in the end or for looks?
- PersonalityVote A
- LooksVote B
- UnsureVote C
- Just wanted to check the answers for the pollVote D
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I'd say that I put more importance on personality and compatibility of interests back when I was agonizing about whether to marry or not. Been married for going on 20 years now, so I guess something worked. :)
Looks are great, but they will definitely deteriorate over time (that includes yours too! :), while personality has a non-trivial chance of significantly improving with time, as people graduate from being inexperienced-and-stupid to experienced-with-common-sense.
It goes without saying, but marriage is (ideally) a long-term commitment, so think in those terms. In other words, make sure you'd still be willing to spend lots of time with the middle-aged version of the person you're marrying...because eventually that's exactly what you'll be doing!0