I don't know how to convince my girl friend that she isn't fat and all I want is her to be happy with the way she looks . It just kills me to hear her say mean things about herself . What can I do to take her mind off of the way she looks ?
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Oh boy . Yeah, as a girl I've been guilty of putting myself down too . It's kind of a mental thing that can't be solved by any one thing you do . Sometimes all a girl is doing is fishing for compliments; yeah I'm trying to think what makes ME feel better .
well, first of all . She's insecure . I can tell just by the fact she says she's fat . She needs to be told exactly why she's beautiful . Tell her how much you love her eyes, hair, etc . Just stay away from body shape . She needs to grow comfortable in her own skin, and that's a thing only she can do .
so for now, just tell her she looks great (maybe point out an article of clothing that "makes you look really hot ! ") she might start wearing those type of clothes for real .
if it's an actual issue (aka she had some serious overweightedness), just don't, whatever you do, say "no you aren't ! " . That's cos clearly she is . She won't trust you so much .
if it isn't just change the subject .
-"oh god I look so fat ! "
-"oh please ! By the way, I wanted to mention that you look amazing in that miniskirt . You have great legs hon ! "
Hope that helps !3