Well, if you're over 18 you look like an immature teen. If that's the look you're going for than whatever. But you need to look like an adult if want a specific kind of guy in you age bracket. That look tells me a few things whether it's true or not. List: highly emotional, drug addict, unemployed, punk kid. Unfair, so what, that's what you're putting out. Perception is reality. It happens everywhere. So please don't be so surprised by certain reactions if you act or dress a certain way. Those things actually matter in a civilized society where appearances matter.
To be blatantly honest with you, I would not approach a woman like that because I would attribute it to some form of mental illness such as depression, bipolar, etc. Its sort of like a big sign saying "Hi! I'm emo and cut myself when I feel down!" It may not be the actual case but it is the message your makeup is conveying.
From your pictures, you do have a bit of a "Goth" look to an outsider, because it really is pretty thick. I'd say it's a bit intimidating to anyone who doesn't also do it. Some guys may not get a warm or approachable feeling from you. If you generally wear darker colors that might also give the impression that you don't want to be bothered.
I'm totally used to it... my brother used wear dark eye makeup ala Captain Jack from pirates fame. But some men simply equate it with 'goth' and want nothing to do with it or the culture. You may not be a fan of stereotypes, but they exist nonetheless. It's something we just have to deal with and work towards eliminating the stereotype. That takes time.
As long as your happy and comfortable with yourself, you will attract those who have similar traits. But you can't change the way certain people will react and it would be naive to think otherwise. Some guys will instinctively think about how their mother will react if they bring you home :) it happens. YES we are not all pigs and ass's and do consider our parents when courting a woman.
Hope all this rambling helps. Good luck and cheers!
1: Too much make up = turn off. (what defines too much is anyone's guess. If it looks caked on, too much).
2: This might just be me, but I get turned off at any female that uses anti-aging stuff. Why? Because it's not real. It's all fake gunk and any effect is only in the mind of the beholder. There's like 2 or 3 anti-wrinkle creams that work, and all 3 are prescription only (you have to see a doctor), because they work in the dermis level. So anyone buying anti-aging crap I consider to be incompatible with me... to put it nicely. (I'm a nerd and a sucker for science).
My Girlfriend wears occasionally make up to look nice, mostly a light blush and a natural looking lippy, but that's pretty rare. Most of the time she doesn't wear a thing. :P
PS. From your picture you look fine with what make up you have on.
well to be honest your very attractive but you need to lay off the makeup. guys like girls who look like they enjoy life and with lack makeup girls kinda look like they are depresed. And just like darwin stated about woman, men want healthy happy woman who they can go somwhere with they won't start a relationship with you if they think your going to have problems ehs going to deal with down the road. I don't mean to sound like an ass but that's how the male mind works and I'm trying to get right to the point
I am afraid it IS the gothic thing. You may not like it, but everyone makes subconscious evaluations based on looks. Your thick makeup makes you seem intense and serious, as well as a bit antisocial due to the style's counter-culture history. If that isn't who you are, then think about altering your style. Doing just the top eyelids and/or just by the eyelashes can make it more stylized and sexy, while still bringing focus to your pretty blue eyes.
Yea don't take this too hard, but if I saw you at a party I would make a mental note to stay away. You're really pretty though so why don't you try just going out a few days without makeup and see if you notice a difference?
Probably a biased person here but I like your make up. You have bright eyes so dark eye make up really brings them out. As far as the whole depressed emo bull forget about it. You like your style. That's all there is to it.
Heavy makeup actually scares some guys. It kinda makes you look trashy or emo which most guys think emo girls are creepy. I actually prefer light makeup on a girl. Take some of it off let your TRUE beauty shine through. Makeup is fake but your features are real. Show them off. What are you masking behind there? There's nothing to hide let others see your face :)
First of all you look very pretty and guys like when there girl gets all dolled up...but I think most guys like a girl with the least amount of make-up on as possible... I don't want to wake up to something scary in the morning lol or not know who she is cause I have never seen her without it ...
i think it depends on the girl really on whether or not it "scares" people off but is suits some girls and from you picture your one of those girls but it does look a bit gothic-esque maybe your just looking at the wrong sort of guys
No one else has said it, so I will: it depends on what sort of guys you are interested in.
If you're interested in squishy, timid guys with little to no spine that would be "scared off" by your appearance, then you should reevaluate what you're wearing.
If you're looking for the sort of guy that isn't intimidated by something as small as your makeup, the sort of guy that will like you for you and have the balls to talk to you without shivering, then you're just fine exactly as you are - don't change a thing. You look great.
Forget all these answers telling you that your older friend is right and that your look scares people away. The only guys it will scare off are the spineless noodles that, I'm betting, you don't want to be with anyway.
trust me, even if guys compliment it's still gross because it's not natural, why would a girl as pretty as you hide her face in "heavy" make up! the more experienced guys and wiser ones understand two things: the girl is either ugly and wants to hide her face and her facial features no matter how... or that she has complexities that no one can work them thru with her... So! girls please, for the love of all the religions and the nations and the creatures give us a break and look natural because those things you put on your faces and nails are really disgusting, you are a human being and not an alien!
we want to see some beauties with our own eyes not weird eye sights that will give us nightmares!
It could be. It depends on what kind of guy you're going for, most likely. I think your makeup is too intense. It's so severe that it distracts from how pretty you are, and you really do have lovely eyes. You should try to soften it. Don't get me wrong. I love playing with makeup. Dark, colorful, elaborate, whatever. You obviously love your dark eye makeup, but I think there's a better way to do it, so that it enhances your eyes, but is still a style you feel comfortable with. You'd benefit from some practice as well, particularly in blending. I think what you're doing now looks a bit sloppy. Something like these would be infinitely more flattering on you:
The fact of the matter is that people judge based on appearance. But if someone is going to write you off completely because of how you wear your makeup, you probably don't want them anyway. I don't think you need to give up your dark makeup, you should just improve your technique. Play with it, have fun with it!
Your eye makeup is *really* intense, and it doesn't look natural at all, which is what guys usually prefer to see. Honestly, it's the first thing a person is going to notice when they look at you. Not necessarily your eyes (which are really nice, by the way), but your eye makeup.
I'm not a huge fan of Avril Lavigne, but she always did the same thing.
Here's a picture of her with heavy eye makeup: link
See the difference? In the first one, it's like the dark makeup is just there, it's not really accentuating anything, which is the purpose of makeup. In the second one, she's actually highlighting her eyes, and with less makeup. It makes such a huge difference in her appearance.
The problem is it doesn't look natural. There is a way to wear more make up but it look natural. I wear a mineral foundation, light eyeliner, mascara, and the occassional very light eyeshadow (I buy the expensive stuff to bring out the green in my eyes but still looks natural). My husband loves it because it brings out my natural look and doesn't look like I'm wearing all kinds of make-up
i don't think it's your style that scares off guys, I don't even think you are 'scaring' guys off... but you aren't exactly achieving the look correctly to enhance your beauty. instead of just drawing black circles around your eyes, you should try some of the tips on that site.
Going from your pictures you have gorgeous eyes! You are definitely on the right track with wearing eye make-up to accentuate them, but I feel that all of the heavy black is too much and a little too harsh on your skin, and might therefore be a turn-off.
My advice is to still wear eye make-up but opt for browns instead of all black. Here's some examples of some looks you might like to try.
Well from what I understand...guys don't like when girls wear a ton of makeup. Most guys even prefer girls when they think they look their worst so no makeup lol. By you wearing heavy black makeup they could be getting the wrong impression of you maybe being that you don't respect yourself or that you're a mean girl, not saying you apply to either of those. But a first impression is everything!
ohk...first off, you don't look like you wear like ALOTTA LOTTA dark makeup. I think you're pretty nd plus, who the hell wants to be wit a guy whos shallow enuff to judge based solely on something as ridiculous as how much makeup you wear neways? don't change for anybody and one day, there'll b that one guy who won't give a damn how much dark makeup you wearr
It probably does but you can still fix it! Without stop doing what you like, I would say that if you only would wear eye liner on your top and bottom inner eye lid it would look bettter and some good mascara, it could be that you even use a lot of it, itwill give you a dark look, but not that dark, and you will still look pretty (= without scaring guys away if that's what you afraid of. Byt the way you have sum nice eyes.
I hope this helps try it out if you don't like it just be you ;]
yea I really think it could scare away guys. there is this girl at my school & she piles on the black mascara & eyeliner & she's so scarry looking! it makes her eyes look so unfortunate looking! so try not to wear it!