My boyfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago. We recently talked on the phone about the reason we broke up. I found out he's been lying a lot to me, but that's aside the point. He told me that he doesn't want any relationships right now. So my question is guys, what are some reasons you might not want a relationship with not only your girlfriend but any girls at all?
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Well.. think logically and honestly about it.. what are the three reasons people are motivated to get together and stay together?
It's all about supply and demand.. the more of each that someone can supply, the more attractive/desirable they are (the more motivation they create for someone else to want to be and stay with them).. the more of each that someone demands/wants, the more attractive/desirable those who can supply those things will seem to them (the more motivated they will be to want to be or stay with the supplier)
in the case of money.. the supply usually INCREASES as a function of time (career/professional growth), as does the demand (high lifestyle, family obligations, planning for future, etc)
in the case of sex.. the supply always DECREASES as a function of time (people just get older).. as does the demand (as men break out of their teens and move towards their 30's.. testosterone shoots down.. along with higher stress and responsibility.. libido and sex drive is almost non-existant)
in the case of emotion.. the supply is more or less CONSTANT (people are who they are.. and can only change or improve themselves so much).. but the demand for emotion always INCREASES through time (people need more emotional closeness, companionship, affection, attention, comfort, caring, loving, tenderness, etc as they get older.. with more responsibilities and stress, and with family)
Now let's just zoom in and consider a guy's point of view..
Money: a guy is a very efficient asset.. on average, men earn and produce more than they spend, and on average, their personal net margin, rate of equity gain, and savings are higher than those of women.. apart from a few exceptions (kevin federline) cough cough.. men have a lower desire for the material.. and can supply themselves much more than they desire.. so there are not motivated to seek a relationship with women in search of someone who will sponsor the lifestyle they seek much can't finance on their own
Sex: which a man/woman can achieve sexual release on their own through masturbation (maslow's physiological group), both men and women require a second person to achieve sexual intimacy (maslow's loving/belonging group).. however, one need not be in a relationship to have sex.. so men simply ignore women who try and use "morality" as a way of withholding sex in exchange for a relationship.. and just have sex with women who just want sex themselves.. that way.. everyone is honest and nobody gets hurt
Emotion: this is really the only motivation a guy has to get into a relationship.. no matter how hot or rich a girl is.. if she can't give REAL/HONEST/GENUINE emotion to a guy.. there's just no motivation to get into a serious relationship with her..
So the ONLY reasons he wouldn't want a relationship?
1. He doesn't WANT emotion yet!
2. He wants emotion, but doesn't see you as being able to offer it.. or maybe seeks you as FAKE/DISHONEST..0