it was so unexpected and at the same time devastating , I was at work and she pulled in her car and beside her was one of my male co-workers who I though was my friend and respected me but apparently not . but yeah they had been hanging out this after noon it turns out and went on a romantic hike that they didn't bother to tell me about , like I'm so upset as I like her so much and been trying to get her for a while now and we almost slept togeher once and we get along so well , but this is just too much to even deal with , I just can't stand the though of her seeing another guy from work and the fact I had to find out by accident just makes me so upset rate now .
what do I even say to her after finding this out in the worst kind of way ?
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With all due respect, you're not dating her nor are you in an exclusive relationship with her. Certainly I understand your emotion and reactions to this, it's shocking! However, she is single and allowed to date and see who she wants.
In terms of the co-worker, I think his behavior is opportunist, disrespectful and he is untrustworthy. I would not mingle with him on a personal level anymore, keep it professional since you have to collaborate.
I don't think it's your place to say anything. I think that if you want the circumstances to change, then consider spending more time with her so you can determine if a relationship is possible.0